HolidayloveList making. Mall crawling. Web surfing. No wonder the hustle-bustle of the holidays causes a whopping 60% of couples to experience a romantic slump. As a Communication and Relationships Coach, I say “Bah Humbug” to that! Here are some quick and easy ways to make your love life sizzle this season:

  • Don’t let frigid temperatures put your love life on ice. In all the hustle-bustle of the holidays, it’s easy to let date nights fall by the wayside, Don’t let it happen! Hire a sitter and plan at least one night to venture out together—whether it’s for cocktails and appetizers, dinner and a movie, or a quiet drive through nearby neighborhoods to oooh and ahhh at the Christmas lights. Spending a few hours alone is key to keeping you hot for each other throughout the holidays.
  • Take advantage of snuggle-friendly weather. Find fun (and sexy) things you can do at home…at little or no cost. One of my all time favorites: have a spa night. Light some candles, get some fragrant oils and take turns giving each other massages. Or, put the kids to bed, grab a blanket and smush together under it while watching your favorite holiday flick. Before you hit play, pick a holiday word or phrase, and agree to make out for at least a minute every time you hear it uttered in the movie.
  • Create love signals you can use to flirt and stay connected at holiday parties and family gatherings. Something as simple as a quick wink, a sweet smile or brushing hands with your partner as you pass by one another in a crowded room sends the signal, “I can’t wait to get home and be alone with you.”
  • Send your significant other a naughty text while you’re at work. Tell them they’re the sexiest gift ever and you can’t wait to unwrap them, for example—then watch the sparks go flying!
  • Get physical together. Believe it or not, research reveals that an old-fashioned snowball fight can put you in the mood for sexy time by getting your blood pumping and giving you a rush of feel-good endorphins. Ready, aim, fire!
  • Be silly. Go ahead and spike the eggnog and hang the mistletoe – then smooch your partner with your eyes open. Why with your eyes open? Because it turns up the heat by keeping you in the moment and focused on the one you love most.
  • Make a lusty wish list. Tub time for two? A tryst under the tree? Sexy Santa lingerie? How about 12 days of fabulous foreplay?

Above all, remember ‘tis the season to for taking time to be close, to be sensual, and to celebrate being a couple.

Happy holidays!

Coach Todd Reed, CPC