Every couple instinctively knows how important it is to set aside time on a regular basis to touch base, reconnect, and have fun. But as life’s obligations pile up, planning and organizing a date night can feel like, well, yet another thing to add to your growing to-do list. And let’s face it, after a while, date nights can feel so routine.

No more! Try these tips to jazz up your next date night:

Pick a place that’s relatively quiet. It doesn’t have to be pricey, but you don’t want to be surrounded by families with screaming children or a place where TVs are blaring everywhere. You want to focus on each other.

Dress up. You don‘t have to go cocktail or anything, but ditch the jeans and put on something that makes you feel good and will remind you that this is a special night.

Build anticipation. Two days before your date night, send your significant other a text message or an email that says you’ve been thinking of your upcoming rendezvous, and that you’ve lost focus at work—more than a few times—visualizing your pending evening. The day before, your message should read something like, “Can’t wait to get you alone tomorrow night.” And on the afternoon of your date night, try, “In just a few short hours, you’re all mine!”

Have a sexy conversation. Agree to make topics like work, the kids, and finances taboo. Instead, take a walk down memory lane, take time to acknowledge all that you love about each other and how grateful you are to be together, or tell your partner how hot he/she looks. Better yet, share fantasies with each other. Studies show that nine out of ten of us have them, and the tenth person probably has them but won’t admit it. Research also reveals that couples who share fantasies make love more often, so start the dialogue!

Touch each other—a lot. It’s called “the mother of all senses” for a reason. Hold hands across the table, or let your feet intertwine underneath. If there’s a dance floor, slow dance. Anything that gets that skin-on-skin high going for you can lead to a more passionate evening.

Kiss goodnight this way. The best dates end with a sexy smooch. When your lips touch, keep your eyes open. Just slightly open works, even f it’s only for a few seconds at a time. This allows you to focus on your partner, be present in the moment, and enjoy the rise to passion. Try it…the sparks will fly!

~Coach Todd Reed, CPC