We’re on the brink of a new year, and for a number of us that means it’s time to mentally wipe the board of life clear and enter 2014 with a fresh and optimistic attitude. A new year not only offers us the chance to pat ourselves on the back for all the good things going on in our lives, it allows us to make resolutions about what we want to change. Losing weight, making more money, having more free time, paying off bills or taking a really cool vacation are often a few areas we focus on. Truth is, by the end of January or February, most of us have already forgotten our New Year’s resolutions, and we’ve fallen right back into our same old routines—or even worse—our same thought processes.

Are you ready to make a New Year’s Resolution that you can stick to and that will also have a huge impact in your life? I think I heard a “YES” out there. Awesome! I’m going to ask you to resolve to make one or two simple and easy changes in how you operate within your relationship. To get started, go buy yourself an expensive calendar (or you may already have one lying around), and park it somewhere where you can see it everyday.

Guys, take 10 minutes and on each Saturday, simply write the word “Dance”.  Then each Saturday resolve to put on some music and take 5 minutes to dance with the love of your life.  Sounds pretty easy, and it is. Not only is easy, it won’t take much time—but trust me, the impact will be immediate.

Ladies, pick a day on your calendar and write “Neck Rub” on that day for each week.  Be consistent, and on the day of your choice, invite your man to sit down, close his eyes and give him a five-minute neck rub. How does that old saying go: “A little attention goes a long way?” Nothing says, “I love you” like a little personal, undivided attention.

Note: You don’t have to dance or give neck rubs….but do write down something fun to do each week with your significant other. Feel free to be creative, and switch things up every few weeks if you want. Loving rituals and routines can go a long way in super gluing your relationship, but mixing things up can also keep the sparks flying.

By all means, work on your next promotion or career move, keep trying to eat better and exercise more, but above all, please resolve to commit just a few more minutes a week to the one you love most and show him/her how special they really are to you.

Happy New Year everybody!

Coach Todd Reed, CPC