After watching last night’s episode of Survivor: Blood vs. Water, I have to give props to my man, Vytas. A couple of episodes ago, when the tribes were randomly switched up, he found himself the sole male on the Galang Tribe. Facing an all-woman alliance, he appeared doomed…and destined for Redemption Island. But this dude had a clever trick up his sleeve. Knowing what women want/like, he proceeded to charm his fellow tribe mates with stories of his bad-boy past and tales of how he had reformed. The women ate it up and found Vytas endearing. Nevertheless if Galang lost its next challenge, it was a no-brainer that Vytas was a goner. But guess what ultimately saved this lone wolf? His willingness to let his guard down and become vulnerable. At Tribal Council, a majority of the women decided to vote out (or shall we say, blindside) one of their own (Laura B.) instead of ousting Vytas.

As a Certified Professional Coach specializing in Communication and Relationships, the lesson learned here is one I’ve been “preaching” for quite a while now, and it particularly applies to men: DON’T BE AFRAID TO SHOW YOUR VULNERABLE SIDE! Connecting with your significant other when your life is going great is easy, but showing your more vulnerable side by talking about topics that intimidate or frighten you can be a challenge. The good news is, there’s an upside to being vulnerable. When you let your defenses down, your partner sees the real you, allowing your significant other to join in and experience what’s going on with you mentally. Not to mention what an amazingly freeing experience it can be when you’re not afraid to be exactly who you are with someone you trust and love.

I’m not saying it’s easy to let your guard down, but when you do make yourself vulnerable, you dramatically increase the chances of your relationship not only SURVIVING, but THRIVING!

~Coach Todd Reed, CPC