With Easter just around the corner, I thought it might be fun to tell the real story of the tortoise and the hare…at least in terms of how this analogy applies to relationships. Aside from the crazy monkey sex that typically involves a reunion or follows an involuntary dry spell, that let’s-rip-off-each-other’s-clothes, must-have you-right-now romp in the hay is all too rare in most long-term relationships.

Scientists say there’s a good reason for that. Basically, when it comes to making love, women tend to be like turtles, while men are more like rabbits. Indeed, research reveals that it takes a guy about three seconds to be interested in and ready for sex. Women, on the other hand, typically need about 15-20 minutes.

So, the trick to having off-the-hook sex lies in figuring out…


  • Give him a massage. Start at the tips of his toes and slowly work your way up to his neck, shoulders, and head (bypassing his middle). Mix kneading and tickling with soft kisses. When done, tell him it’s his turn to do the same to you.
  • Put on a fashion show. Bust out your sexiest lingerie and see which outfit he prefers to peel off you.
  • Set a timer and start talking naughty. Make him wait 15 minutes while you tell him what you plan to do to him. Touching and kissing totally allowed—but only above the neck.


  • Sext her during the day. Or shoot her a quick email saying something like, “I’m having trouble focusing at work. I can’t wait to see you tonight.”
  • Tell her she’s hot – and why. Fill her emotional tank with words and phrases she’s craving to hear. Tell her what about her turns you on and how much she means to you. For extra effect, whisper these words in her ear.
  • Think fine dining experience. Don’t rush through the salad so you can get to the main dish. Take your time to enjoy an appetizer or a sip of wine, and slowly work up to the main course. If you focus on tasting—and savoring—every bite, a sinfully delicious dessert is yours for the taking.

Have a great Easter everyone 🙂

Coach Todd